Parents – The Making & Nurturing of the Home
With a surge in economic cut backs and financial pressures at home, both parents are being forced to work ridiculous hours (just to make ‘ends meet’), therefore creating less time with their children & time within the home.
It has become critically important that all household members work as a team. This includes both parents & children alike. The danger is that parents could make the mistake of thinking that their children (as team members) are placed as equals and that parents need to perform in a friendship role instead of maintaining the role as the parent/ leaders within the household. This is completely wrong and will cause disciplinary & boundary issues.
Rules & boundaries are critical within the home. They create structure, guidance and set expectations. The most important aspect of teamwork within the home is that all parent show support to each other. They must always remain as one solid unit of agreement & harmony, which is developed through frequent respectful communication.
Even when disagreements arise, they must be communicated to each other, not as an argument, but as conversation using a low tone so children (regardless of age) are not made privy to the content of the conversation. They must not feel that one parent is more senior than the other.
The idea of making one parent more of a disciplinarian than the other (similar to the ‘God Cop, Bad Cop’ scenario) is not recommended. This will only weaken the authority of the other parent, whilst creating long-term animosity felt by the children for the aggressor.
Engagement with your children is also very important. Spending time as a family, whether around the dinner table or a day out is essential for your child’s development. The development & future of the Home & its values in the lives of our children and our children’s children are dependent on the teamwork & standards that are instilled by us as Parents.
“Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege,
than the raising of the next generation
as a parental team”
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